10 ways to gently leave your lover

(taken from the other blog with a little editing)

Song writer Neil Sedaka may have said it best, “Down shoubby do, down, down, breaking up is hard to do.” Here are ten tips to help you deal with the turmoil and pain of ending a relationship. My wish for you is that you never have to use them.

Cry all you want. Let the tears flow, it’s healthy you are releasing grief and pain. You may be afraid to start because you’re fearful you’ll never stop, but you will.

Do something everydayto help yourself heal. Exercise, read, watch some self-help TV/DVD, learn to meditate and never underestimate the power of positive prayer. Pick thins that you know will be fun. Don’t wait for the mood to come over you, take one and then take another.

Find emotional support. Just don’t try to though it out of go it alone, support from others is healing, even if those people never become close friends.

Don’t be a doormat. If your soon-to-be-ex continues to call you or simply won’t go away tell them you can’t heal with them around ask them to keep their distance.

Kepp busy. If you wake up early take a walk, go out to breakfast or do something around the house. Enjoy your day! Don’t sit in your room and ruminate, you have to free your mind so your heart can heal.

Don’t try to mask your pain by trying to find a replacement.

Don’t spend too much time alone. Hang out with friends or make new ones, go to  coffe with someone you can talk to, volunteer in your community. You will need time alone, but if isolate yourself you won’t be able to fully process your feelings or get the support you need to heal.

Trust your feelings. Even if you were taken by surprise by the breakup, your inner voice is telling you something. Listen carefully and you will hear that it will be OK. You just have to let your feelings guide you.

Take your time. Believe that with a little time, patience, and support you will feel better and find love again.

Research. Find out what other, who have not just survived but thrived after their relationships ended did to achieve peace of mind. There are some great books on surviving a breakup, okay?